What Does Parenting With Love Mean?
Article by Karan Naidoo
You may be confused when it comes to parenting. Things that your parents did may make sense to you now that you have your own children, but others may think those things are extreme, outdated, or just plain wrong. What you want to do with your children is up to you, but you should know that there are ways that you can mess up your children. Some say that parenting with love means raising children that are spoiled rotten and that will never have any respect for authority. That is not true, as love often means doing what you have to do to make sure they are safe, secure, and growing in the right direction.
Some think parenting with love means no discipline. That is not necessarily true. If you remember your parents telling you that this was going to hurt them more than it hurts you right before they paddled you, you may not want to use any type of physical punishment. That is fine, and usually nice because at times this type of discipline can go too far. However, that does not mean you do not have to find a way to get the same message across. Some parents will not do anything because they do not think their children will like them. You have to know that this is not true.
Your children look to you for guidance and boundaries. If you do not set these boundaries, they are going to do whatever they want. As you can imagine, this is not a good idea. Your children are relying on you to let them know what is acceptable and what is not. This is not something they are born knowing. Everything is new to them and they would not have any frame of reference when it comes to what is good and what is bad, though you should not put things in those terms. Let them know what is okay and what is off limits and enforce those things if you want to be parenting with love.
Some say that parenting with love means holding your babies all of the time, and others claim that this spoils a child. The truth is that you can not spoil a baby. They do not know manipulation, only how to offer honest communication and a need for love and comfort. If you are parenting with love, you are parenting them with all that you have. That means dropping everything else if they need you. They trust you to come to their aid and if you fail them, they will not know that there is anyone they can trust. As their parent, you should be there no matter what. Hold them as long as they need so they feel safe and secure.
Parenting with love does not mean letting them get out of trouble without consequence. Hopefully your children will never do things that are illegal or that hurt someone else. As much as you love them, you have to make sure they learn from those mistakes if they do those things. You can not protect them from their errors forever, but you can show them that you love them even though they have to face what they have done. If you coddle them and help them avoid penalty for something serious, they are going to carry on with such things when they leave your home. If that happens, they will be facing worse consequences that you can not interfere with in the future.
About the Author
Karan has been involved with internet marketing for nearly 4 years and is an avid writer who writes on various subjects. Come visit his latest website at www.infraredbinoculars.org/ which helps people find and review the best Infrared Binoculars at the best prices.