What Do Believe Love is? Define it For Yourself
Article by Caterina Christakos
We all know the passage: “Love is patient, love is kind…”
If you’ve attended a wedding recently, there’s a good chance that you watched two people gaze into each others’ eyes and use these words as a sign of their commitment to one another and their marriage. If you’ve been to your grandma’s house, there’s also a good chance you’ve seen it stitched on a throw pillow or two.
Can love really be summed up so easily? And what about those days when you still love your significant other, but you’re not feeling particularly patient and kind?
Really, love is something different for us all, and defining it for yourself can be a great way to ensure that you’re getting what you really need from your friends, family, and even yourself. It’s almost like getting relationship advice from yourself, and who knows what you want more than you do? Whether you’re currently in a romantic relationship or you’re navigating the dating maze to find love, it’s a good idea to take a personal inventory of just what you think love is.
A lot of people think that love is all about candle lit dinners and chocolate covered strawberries. Both of these are definitely nice reminders of love, and an argument can be made that there really should be more candlelight and strawberries in most relationships. Still, they may not be enough to sustain an entire relationship.
Dig a little deeper and think about what types of things make you feel love. Is it being able to share a joke with someone? If so, then humor might have a lot to do with what love is for you. Maybe you feel love when you are able to confide in someone or they confide in you. In that case, you might believe that love is defined by trust and honesty. For some people, love is about consistency and reliability, while others are more interested in spontaneity and adventure.
Obviously, love is incredibly complicated; and we can’t just narrow it down into one concise list of “should” and “should not.” On the other hand, there’s nothing wrong with taking note of a few things that you really want in your relationships and sticking to your guns. If you’re looking for that elusive “true love,” then why not go ahead and give yourself some guidelines that will help you recognize it when it happens?
By making a list of what you think love is, you can also better recognize what love is not. Too often we find ourselves staying in relationships because they’re familiar or safe, but there’s an underlying sense of uneasiness. This might be caused by the fact that just because something is familiar doesn’t mean it’s fulfilling.
If you are still looking for that someone special, knowing what you want can be so helpful in making good choices for you and your relationships. Taking an objective look at what you think love is can help you determine whether you’re truly in love or not, too.
About the Author
Caterina Christakos is a published author and reviewer. Read where to find cheap vegas shows and discount vegas show tickets.