How To Save Relationship – The Great Pendulum Method
Sometimes there comes a time in life when we meet someone attractive to us, fall in love and establish relationships. At this time the world seems so sweet and carefree and you do not want to change anything. But after some time, relationships deteriorate and a crisis strikes. Not all can go through this experience and save relationships, many are forced to terminate such a pleasant connection they enjoyed recently.
How to save relationship, how not to get to the stage of separation, how to maintain good relations with a good person?
Development of relationships – From dating to breaking up.
Let’s have a look on typical development of relationship between men and women.
First stage – meeting.
Second Stage – adaptation. On this stage relationships goes up, partners better and better know each other. It is exactly on this stage partners fall in love and build all the positive emotions associated with it.
Third stage – expectation.
Partners have expectancy time when they try to find out in which direction relationship will move. When everything seems so good it feels like it will always be that way and your partner will be beautiful and nice all the time.
But in reality there is something like stagnation happen. It seems nothing is falling, but there is no rise too. Monotonous behavior, no matter how good it is, sooner or later it will make you bored. Therefore, in such situations, the development of relations goes to the fourth stage.
Fourth stage – disappointment. It is during this period, one or two partners realize that their expectations were not fulfilled and it can’t last forever this way and then relationship suffer.
How long it could last, depends on certain people. The fact is that even the patience has limitations and sooner or later it will be the end of it and then relationships come to the final fifth phase of development.
Fifth stage – breaking up. So why break up happens?
At the beginning one partner behaves better than he/she as a person in reality is. All these efforts have been made to put him/herself in the best light.
Such approach is not bad for one or two meetings, when all is not going to developing a lasting relationship. And later after breaking up you will be remembered the way the first impression was.
But if relationship goes farther than only two meetings? How long then the person could maintain this high level “picture” of him-self?
If you show yourself almost ideal in the first meeting, the partner gets used to this first “original” image.
And what if a couple of days later, he/she would see what lies under the beautiful wrapping and it will be much worse than the wrapper? For most people it will be difficult to wean from good.
Of cource it is better to show who you really are or at least do it partially and show the rest good sides of you as needed. Such behavior model gives a much better chance to keep the relationship, or at least make them more durable.
How To Save Relationship?
Above-mentioned advice would be useful to those who is just going to start a long-term acquaintance.
But what can do those who moved on to the second stage – adaptation?
As this is the best stage where you can see continuous growth, surge of positive emotions and other joys, all you need to do is to save your relationships without moving to another ones.
So how to achieve this goal?
Let me introduce the universal and very effective method for any kind of relationships – ‘Closer-Farther’ Pendulum Method.
Good thing about this method is: You have full control on it. In the “closer” moments you can devote time and get closer to your partner. You can spend time, reveal new “trump” from your stock, you can blow partners mind by doing some positive thing.
After this period is going “colder-farther” time in connection together with cooling down a relationship, tiredness, busyness and sometimes mini scandals.
The main thing when using this method is to serve “close” and “farther” moments in healthy doses depending on the situation. And between “Closer-Farther” periods you need to make breaks – neutral periods. But be aware and do not relax for a long, otherwise relationships could move on to the third stage and it’s not far there until fourth and fifth stages.
The point of this method is that you continuously make your partner fall in love with you again and again.
The most important to maintain relationships is not to let your partner to get used to you, continuously change yourself and reveal new sides of you to your partner and of cource be original.
While your love enjoys your previous step, you are thinking about new step and on the way enjoy it too.
And to keep relationships be easier all you need to do is to teach partner to do the same for you and your life will turn in to sweet honey! And there will be no end to it! And there will be no more reason to ask a question: How to save relationship?!
I wish you luck in personal life and also in all your relationships with surrounding you people.
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Oscar Newman is a writer from United Kingdom. You can learn more about building trust and fixing a relationship at Making Up tips and building Trust in Relationship. More resources can be found at www.exlmax.com